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You just matched with someone on Hinge—how exciting! This is the first step towards a thriving relationship. But now what do you do? Starting a conversation on Hinge can be a piece of cake once you’ve Matched and know what to do. In this article, we’ll fill you in on all the best ways you can get and keep a conversation going on Hinge.

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Comment on their profile prompt answers.

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React to their interests and hobbies.

  1. Use prompts to spark a like-minded conversation. When scrolling through your Match’s profile, message them about any similar interests, hobbies, or dislikes. This is a great way to let them know, "Hey, we have something in common!" while also starting a deeper conversation.
    • "Couldn’t agree more. Pineapple on pizza is simply a sin."
    • "Saw your pic holding a lightsaber (epic btw). Where do you stand on Reylo?"
    • Expressing common interests can help you bond and ease any awkwardness right away.

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Ask them an open-ended question.

  1. Open-ended questions require explanation, making them a foolproof way to get a conversation going. When you first start talking to your Match, stick with questions that require some elaboration, something more than a "yes" or "no." This will give you a better sense of who the person is and let you connect. Try asking them something like:
    • "Who’s your celebrity crush?"
    • "What’s your favorite ice cream topping?"
    • "What do you like to do in your free time?"

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Compliment them.

  1. Get the conversation rolling with why you like them. Your Match has caught your eye for a reason. Maybe it’s their bright eyes, gorgeous smile, or sense of humor. Take what drew you to them and start the conversation with a flattering compliment. Try complimenting them by saying:
    • "Your smile is contagious."
    • "Your taste in literature is exquisite."
    • "I don’t think I’ve laughed so many times reading a profile than when I read yours."

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Play a game of “would you rather.”

  1. A "would you rather" question can help you skip the small talk. This simple yet fun game is a great way to learn more about your Match and get a better idea if you’re compatible. Not to mention that every answer can lead to a follow-up question, helping the conversation continue way past introductions! Here are some questions to get you started:[5]
    • "Would you rather control the future or change the past?"
    • "Would you rather have all the time or money you could dream of?"
    • "Would you rather spend the weekend watching Netflix or going out on the town?"

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Say “hi” and ask them about their day.

  1. Sometimes, a bit of small talk can get the conversation started. If you’re nervous about messaging your Match and don’t know what to say, that’s okay! Start by saying "hi," telling them about your day, and then asking about theirs. Their response will give you something to branch off from, and before you know it, you’ll be having a full-on conversation. Check out some of these starters:
    • "Today just got a whole lot better when you commented on my pic. How’s life?"
    • "Hey! Your Like brightened this gloomy day. How are you spending this rainy day?"
    • "Hi! Matching with you has made this awesome day even better! How’s your day going so far?"

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Share a joke.

  1. Break the ice with a clever comment. If your Match seems to have a good send of humor, why not share some of your own? Jokes are an easy and fun way to show off a bit of your personality and get them chuckling—bonus points if you can tie in something from their profile into a joke. Consider starting your conversation with one of these corny jokes:
    • "Are you a keyboard? Because you’re my type."
    • "Why do bartenders use blenders? To break the ice."
    • "Do you want to hear a joke about pizza? Never mind. It’s too cheesy."

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Stay positive.

  1. An optimistic attitude can go a long way when starting a Hinge conversation. Rather than focusing on what’s ailing you in real life right away, concentrate on the positives. This is your Match’s first time talking with you, so stay clear of complaints and aim for positivity.
    • Everyone has different experiences with dating apps, but why create a negative experience for someone else if you can help it?
    • Online dating can leave people feeling frustrated rather than hopeful, so help cultivate a good experience by being friendly even if things don’t turn out in the end.[6]

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Be respectful.

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      This article was co-authored by wikiHow staff writer, Aly Rusciano. Aly Rusciano is a Creative Writer based outside of Nashville, Tennessee. She has over ten years of experience in creative, academic, and professional writing. Aly’s writing has been nationally recognized in the Sigma Tau Delta Rectangle and featured in Blue Marble Review, The Sunshine Review, PopMatters, and Cathartic Literary Magazine. She graduated from The University of Tennessee at Martin with a BA in English, focusing in Creative Writing and and minoring in Theatre.
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